Written by Kendra, partner of an LLLC Leader.
I am a lesbian with three children. My partner carried our oldest and youngest and I carried our middle. This is the first pride month I’ve also been able to celebrate nursing one of our children. It has to be one of the most rewarding experiences, especially in the very inclusive environment that is La Leche League Canada.
My partner is an accredited La Leche League Leader, and with her help and support of her co-leaders I was able to ease into nursing for my first time with no worries or hesitations. One of the cool things about being in a lesbian relationship is the option of having two nursing moms. My partner with the help of her co-Leaders was able to re-lactate to an extent that helps sooth our four-month-old. In my opinion I find it very beneficial to have the two different “levels” of milk supply. Our son is very vocal when he doesn’t like something. So there are times of the day when he gets frustrated with how much milk supply I have and would rather have my partner nurse him at a lower supply and sooth him more. Then there are other times when he is nursing with my partner and becomes vocal that he wants more than an “appetizer” as we like to joke.
I couldn’t be more grateful to have such a supportive partner to share feeds with, to learn from, and to guide me through my first nursing experience. It’s amazing to have a partner who has experienced the aspects of nursing and understands the struggles of the late night feeds with no judgement when you’re tired in the morning from cluster feeds. I say this because each baby is different, and our four-month-old is much different than our four-year-old was when it comes to nursing.